School has messed up how we perceive feedback. Let me demonstrate this with an example of how to ruin your marriage. I got married at 21, 6 months after my first date with the girl. We had both just taken time off from school to do service work for our church, and my wife didn't start school back up until after our wedding since she needed to transfer to my college. This backstory is to let you know we had never seen what each of us was like as a student.